On Awesomeness and Being Awesome

March 7th, 2012

My birthday was yesterday. Birthdays are a big deal for me, because I don’t make New Years resolutions. Instead, I make birthday resolutions.

I guess this started in 2008, when I turned 24 and realized how dangerously close I was to weighing 300 pounds. I said “Okay, Self, it’s time to lose weight”. I found a simple workout guide, cut caloric beverages completely from my diet, and started working out five days a week. Sure, I didn’t keep the absolute diligence up constantly… I slipped up a few times, or went through spells where I backslid. But ultimately, from March 2008 to December 2011, I went from this:

To this:

And I did it without specialized diets (paleo-, Atkins, etc.), major lifestyle changes (I didn’t even quit smoking), or bullshit fad workout cults (I’m not going to say its name but it rhymes with “schmossfit”).  Am I bragging? Well, yeah, a little bit. Do I care? No. Being thinner didn’t solve all my problems. Being awesome did. Unfortunately, that was a different journey.

I was having a conversation a few months back with a friend concerning relationships. My friend said “I just want someone who thinks I’m awesome”. I agreed, that was what I wanted as well. And then it hit me. The easiest way to find someone who thinks you’re awesome… is to BE. AWESOME.

Now, granted, awesome is a matter of perspective. But the most important perspective of your own awesomeness is you. Trust me, I know this is hard. Personally, as a rationalist/skeptic, I have to take things on evidence, rather than presupposition — my mind won’t let me work any other way. But since I’m judging something so completely subjective, I can presuppose all I want. It’s “awesomeness”, something so vaguely defined and up in the air that there’s really no perspective that matters more than mine. So, I’m going to give a simple guide, based on my own awesomeness experience.

[DISCLAIMER: I am in no way qualified to give you advice on anything, at all, ever, and under NO circumstances should you pay any attention to my advice, or even read it if you are ever influenced by things you read on the Internet]

So, step one was to find my starting point. Just a small piece of evidence pointing to my own awesomeness. I chose to look at the weight loss (which is why I started with that story) because from a creative standpoint, I had been through something of a dry spell. Your starting point can be as simple as you want it to be. You have accomplished something. If you think you haven’t, you’re wrong. You may have had a kid, graduated high school, graduated an equivalency program, even made an old person’s day by carrying their groceries half a block. It doesn’t matter. You find your starting point, and you say “I am awsome“.

“But some people don’t think I’m awesome! What about those people?”

Fuck those people.

Seriously. You’ve already established that you are awesome. So if something doesn’t agree with you, they are obviously wrong. You might want to spend some time trying to prove your awesomeness to them… Personally I’d say don’t bother. Awesomeness is self-evident. Anyone who doesn’t see your awesomeness isn’t worth your time.

Exceptions are in the cases of teachers or inspirations. If someone is an expert in a field, you should probably listen to their advice.

So how am I so awesome?

Well, I chose a few months ago to live by a short list of guidelines. I was going to list them here, but they really all boil down into one simple principle:

OWN WHAT YOU DO

Example #1:  Bob eats lot of junk food. But he also keep track of his calories, fat, cholesterol, etc. and he works out a lot. He has to eat way more than most people because of the number of calories he burns. He goes to a restaurant with his friend Jim, and orders a super-sized combo.

Jim, on the other hand, only orders a burger, and loudly weighs the option of whether or not to eat fries. Not because he doesn’t know if he wants them, not even because he’s concerned about his health, but because he’s concerned about what Bob or others might think of him for eating fries. He finally decides “okay, I guess I’ll have fries”. They both eat. Within 5 minutes, Jim is complaining “oh I shouldn’t have had that order of small fries, I’m going to get so fat, etc.”

Here’s the deal: Bob ordered a hell of a lot more food than Jim did. But Jim is so concerned with what other people think of his order that he can’t own up to the fact that he happened to want some fries. What if Bob wasn’t in great shape, and still decided to order a large combo? It still wouldn’t be anybody else’s goddamn business. Jim is concerned with appearances and pleasing others, to the point where he loudly tries to make himself what he thinks they want him to be, when ultimately nobody cares what Jim ordered except for Jim.

Example #2: Bob is dating Janice, whom Jim doesn’t like. So Bob keeps the relationship a secret from Jim. To the point of even lying to Jim about the relationship. This is even more of a dick move than before, because rather than not showing confidence in his diet, he’s actually keeping a relationship secret. So he’s being a dick to both Jim and to Janice. (And Janice should kick his ass to the curb for being kept a secret). Bob is not being awesome here. The way an awesome person would handle it would be to say “Yes, I’m dating Janice, and it’s none of your business, so what up!”

The point is, you don’t have to apologize for anything you do, unless you legitimately hurt someone else. And you don’t have to lie to someone because you know they wouldn’t like the truth. You just have to live your life.

Sidebar on being proven “wrong”:

You also can’t be afraid to be wrong. If someone can show you evidence for one of your opinions being incorrect, you can boldly retract that opinion just as boldly as you presented it. But if all they do is claim “oh well logic is a belief” or some bullshit non-answer, then they’re obviously an idiot. Fuck ‘em.

Subparker is Live!

March 5th, 2012

Two-ish months after I first got the idea to write a comic about people working in a sub shop, the plan is finally realized. So, in case you didn’t know it already, head on over to www.subparker.com and follow the new comic on Twitter, Facebook, RSS, or whatever you use to keep up with all the comics you read!

Testing again

February 29th, 2012

This time from the blog.

Bear with me…

February 10th, 2012

Integration of social networking requires quite a few test posts. This is one of those.

Teenage Girl makes Average Teenager Complaint, Father takes a Gun to her Laptop?!

February 10th, 2012

Don’t know if you’ve seen this video, which has been making the rounds on Facebook all day, but a fifteen year old girl wrote a note on Facebook complaining that her parents treat her like a slave. Her father, Tommy Jordan, responded by shooting her laptop full of holes with a handgun, and posting the video on her Facebook.

I’m sorry, but…what teenager doesn’t complain about chores on Facebook? What was in her note that hasn’t been said by everyone at some point or other? The frequency of the word “rebellion” in Jordan’s video shows the authoritarianism in his style. He does not like what she said, and that is “rebellion”, so with his iron fist, he will crush it.

The message Jordan is teaching his children is clear… If the offense is expression, the punishment is violence and destruction of property. (By the way, I’m not a marksman myself, but I’m fairly sure that it’s not considered safe to fire a .45 with one hand)

The only thing I find more disturbing than this video is the number of Facebook friends I have who are resharing it and cheering the cretin on.

13 Places to Eat in Huntsville

February 10th, 2012

So, last Thursday the Alabama Department of Tourism release the newest issue of ‘100 Dishes to Eat in Alabama Before You Die’. This list has existed in some form or fashion for several years.

But I also find myself disappointed by the selection for my hometown. While some of the options are acceptable, some of them can’t possibly be the best dishes in town, much less the state. I have a suspicion they were included because the restaurants are “iconic”, not because anyone actually likes them (*cough cough* -Mullins! -*cough, cough*).

A twitter discussion between myself, Jonathan, and Ariana made us wonder which local restaurants the residents actually like. More specifically, which restaurants we prefer. So we decided to go through our “top 10 to 15 Huntsville restaurants” based on food, ambiance, atmosphere, and other reasons. Here we go!

Warning: I fucking hate Bridge Street, so I’m not listing any restaurants there.

13. Frizzle’s Restaurant – You’re going to notice a “take-out” and “cheap food” trend in most of these entries, I guess I should go ahead and warn you. I grew up in a very thrifty family, so I got used to going to fast food restaurants instead of sit-down. First entry in this countdown is Frizzle’s. There used to be upwards of 3 or 4 locations in town, but it’s now down to just one. The chicken, burgers, and standard foods are so-so, and while their wings aren’t bad, they’re perfectly forgettable… but two things make Frizzle’s stand out to me: The fries, and the frozen custard. The website boasts “You’ll be saying it’s better than ice cream” and that’s exactly the case. The addition of eggs makes their frozen custard so rich, you’ll never want ice cream again. As for the fries, I’m not a huge fan of French fries in general… but the exception is when they’re battered. If they’re battered, I can’t get enough of them. Frizzle’s are battered. ‘Nuff said.

12. Terranova’s Italian Restaurant  – While filming for In the Weeds, I spent about 12 hours a day in this place without ever actually eating anything, but it did give me a chance to observe the décor – the walls are decked out with Italian-language movie posters, from Bogart classics to Me, Myself & Irene. When I had a chance to actually dine here, I was incredibly impressed, first of all with the portion sizes, and secondly with the quality of the food and the friendliness of the wait staff. If you are looking for inexpensive but classy Italian dining, you will not be disappointed at Terranova’s. I recommend the baked lasagna.

11. Meridian Street Café – Once upon a time, there were seedy looking diners that served the greasiest but most delicious food, breakfast all day, and you could smoke in restaurants while getting your coffee filled. When Huntsville passed the restaurant smoking ban, Meridian Street Café (the original location on Meridian Street, not the second location) chose to become a 19+ establishment so they could continue to cater to their blue-collar smoking customers. This is the reason I first gave the place a chance, despite how scary it looked from the outside. It’s like I was transported back in time to the local Waffle House during college, but with better food: specifically, the best biscuits you can probably find in this town. And the prices are more reasonable than you’ll find at any Waffle House. And you can smoke, I guess I should have mentioned that. Drawbacks are, they are only open for Breakfast and Lunch, and they close on Sundays and Mondays. Best meal ever: Biscuits and gravy, tomato slices on the side, black coffee. You’ll feel like what society tells you a real man should feel like (which I guess is a guy who likes to shit?)

10. Humphrey’s Bar & Grill – Humphrey’s actually DID make the Tourism Department list but just for the Sweet Tea. As a 20-something, that baffles me… “Sweet tea? You know they serve beer there, right!?” Humphrey’s is well-known as a local watering hole, but before about 9pm it functions as an actual restaurant, with seats and everything! Two things stand out to me on the menu: The Cajun Quesadilla, and the fried pickles. The Cajun Quesadilla was, until recently, described more accurately as the Andouille sausage quesadilla, which is exactly what it is. Rather than chicken or steak, the southwestern flavor is accented by our favorite Cajun sausage. Before Humphrey’s, I had never found a place that could make fried pickles that weren’t too greasy or too dry. Also, three dollar Yuenglings anyone?

9. & 8. – Sam & Greg’s Pizza  and Terry’s Pizza (Now only served at Star Market)

Terry’s Pizza was once an iconic pizzeria in Huntsville. Something happened that I’m too lazy to Google, and they all went out of business. However, the local Star Markets sell Terry’s pizzas as a “take home and bake”, a delivery, or a carryout delivered hot. True, it’s not technically a “restaurant”, but once you try it – and it has the BEST cheese I have EVER had on a pizza – you will not care that you bought it at a grocery store. Additionally (at least at the Five Points location) they have “suggested wine pairings” for each of their pizzas, and all those wines are located on a rack right beside the pizza station.
Sam and Greg’s, located on the Downtown Square, offers some creative pizza topping combinations. (A “Key West” pizza that includes mango as a topping). Also, creative flavors of gelato, such as green tea. (I think. It’s been a while). More of a thin, foldable pizza, but better than its counterpart Tommy’s.

7. Old Heidelberg – Old Heidelberg also made the State Tourism list, but only for the brown bread they give you for free. That’s not entirely acceptable to me. Brats, beer, and schnitzel, not to mention a Dill and cucumber salad that is creamy enough to impregnate a man, and hot potato salad with vinegar and bacon make Old Heidelberg what it is. If you’re only there for the bread, you are so doing it wrong.

6. & 5. Taqueria el Cazador  & Phil Sandoval’s
Though Taqueria el Cazador has a few locations, most of them in buildings, it is best known by its Governor’s Drive nickname: “The Taco Bus”. It used to be a Taco Truck, the type of street food you would find in a real city, but was so successful, they upgraded to a bus with tables and chairs inside. The beauty of the Taco Bus comes from its authentic Mexican flavor, rather than that “Tex Mex” that has permeated southwestern cuisine in the US. They laugh in the face of conventions that claim “Tacos have to have cheese on them!” or “Tacos have to be spicy!” or “Mexican food can’t have sliced carrots on it!” Homemade tortillas, meat seasoned slightly with cilantro and lime… and you can get beef tongue tacos? Or tripe? A great place to branch out your tastes.
Though Phil Sandoval’s did not make the State list, its parent Rosie’s did. That’s understandable, because Rosie’s is iconic. However, Phil’s is better. While the menus are almost identical, Phil’s offers an extraordinary level of service not equaled by Rosie’s. Phil’s also has crisper tortilla chips, and gives you free soft-serve ice cream with your check. Try the margaritas and the black-bean dip!

4. Tim’s Cajun Kitchen  - I first experienced the miracle that is Tim’s when I was about 10 or 11 years old. It was a favorite place of my dad’s and they served the first frog legs I ever had. Sadly they no longer carry frog legs (though they do still carry alligator), but they make up for it with Cajun corn, Cajun coleslaw, jambalaya, bread pudding, and the best New Orleans food Huntsville has to offer. (though I’ve never actually been to the Po-Boy Factory because they keep weird hours).

3. Papa Gyro’s – Birmingham residents brag about their “purple onion”. Well fuck the Purple Onion. Papa Gyro’s, on University Drive offers the most robust Greek food you’ll ever find, and at great takeout prices. The Classic Gyro, fries (which are battered, and we know that gets me off), and a baklava so sweet you won’t care that your fingers are now sticky. The downside to me as a “diet soda” drinker is that small places like this tend to carry Diet Coke as the only zero calorie option. But the rest of the menu makes up for that completely. A good option for vegetarians is the falafel plate.

2. Beauregard’s (site seems to be down) – Around Thanksgiving, the saddest thing happened to this town since Apollo 1 exploded: All four Beauregard’s locations closed their doors. But then, just in time for Christmas, was a miracle: Three of those locations reopened! While their Habanero Wings made the State dishes list, any Beauregard’s wings belong on there, from the mildest to the extra hot. Not a wings fan? They offer fried bologna, fried catfish, burgers, ribs, etc. Pitchers of beer, cheese fries. (You know what? I used to weigh almost 300 pounds… I’m guessing now that Beauregard’s is why). In all honesty, judging from the food alone, this really is my favorite restaurant in town. Unfortunately, the service is frequenly terrible – regardless of location or staff. It’s always been that way. So the number one spot goes to:

1. 1892 East  - Despite my staunchly “blue collar” list of favorite places, the number one restaurant in Huntsville as far as I’m concerned is a classy choice: 1892. It’s a great choice for food snobs, because all the ingredients are local, the meats and vegetables are from local farms, and even the beer menu exclusively features brews from Huntsville, Birmingham, Nashville, and Atlanta. The entire back half of the menu is vegetarian, if that’s your preference… but the New York Strip is hands down the best steak I have ever eaten. Top it off with a friendly wait staff and an atmosphere that is intimate without being crowded, and we have Huntsville’s best restaurant. Just don’t order shots. They kind of frown on crowds of 20-somethings ordering shots in their establishment.

I do need to mention some other places. Despite my hatred of Bridge Street, I enjoy the sushi at Sakoa, the pizza at Tommy’s, and the made-in-front-of-you guacamole at Cantina Laredo (though I don’t understand paying 10 bucks a bowl for it). Huntsville really doesn’t have a bad “bar food” scene in general to be honest. Also, though it’s national now, Steak-Out started here. Pane e Vino, the Italian restaurant in the art museum, offers a delicious pizza with ricotta cheese. And the dim sum at Ding How II is great, if you can get there before all the good stuff is picked at.

What about you? What are your favorite places to eat in your hometown?

The Future of Mister Woodles

December 30th, 2011

As many of you probably noticed a long time ago, before you forgot I ever had a comic, I haven’t updated my comic since February. I have a lot of excuses, none of them good except for the consistent unreliability of my computer.

But also, I never really knew what I was doing with Mister Woodles. It was my first attempt at a webcomic (save for one in college that never made it off my hard drive) and I never clearly defined, even to myself, what I wanted Woodles to be. Initially, it was going to be a series of jokes or humorous faux deep thoughts that I might have posted on Twitter, but enhanced with illustrations. Then I thought of a lot of puns and gags and decided I wanted a gag-based comic because I come up with so many damn jokes. But I also wanted recurring characters. I had come up with the characters of Neal and Greg in previous comic attempts. Keith was original to Woodles, but was initially a character of necessity because I needed a camera operator for the fly comic. But then right before I launched Woodles (which was January 2010) I went through a breakup and a bout of insomnia which inspired a fucked up emo artsy storyline about post-breakup insomnia. That launched the comic into even MORE of a “what the hell kind of comic IS this?” realm.

Plus I was still learning the artistic ropes. In the beginning, I sketched each frame in pencil, use Illustrator to make vector line drawings, Photoshop to paint and shade, and then Illustrator again to lay out. This was MUCH too long a process, and I eventually moved to skipping the initial sketches and going straight to the line drawings. The problem here was that all my perspective was fucked up and characters didn’t look the same from one frame to the next. After my summer hiatus, I came back with the idea of inking on paper (allowing me to work on comics anywhere) and then only coloring on the computer. This worked well for a time, but after a crash resulted in a necessary OS and software change-up I had to add “learn GIMP” to the mix. And the font… I used some free fonts off Blambot. The first one was much better for comics, but I switched to an incredibly ugly one for the sake of a joke that required upper-case-lower-case differentiation.

In 2011 I relaunched with the idea of seven storylines, each loosely based on a deadly sin, and starting at a holiday near the sin. (This was not a well-thought-out plan, as it would have required me to write a Wrath storyline that would take me from March to July). When further computer troubles and scheduling problems came up, I decided to shelve the comic for a little while. A little while turned into almost a year.

And now? Well I’m not interested in picking back up with something that was never very good to begin with. It was a learning experience, and with that experience I will start again.

So announcement number one is Mister Woodles is going away. Thank you to all of the readers and supporters, and especially those of you who provided me with guest comics! I will keep the site live.

Announcement number two? This is very early, but I am creating a spinoff, featuring a one-shot character who was initially intended to be recurring. The details are secret (at least until I get around to buying the domain name) but I will say that while it technically takes place in the same universe as Woodles, the comic itself will be different. Rather than focusing on gags, I want to try my hand at story, character development, and art. Not that it won’t be humorous, but the need for a punch line won’t sacrifice the bigger picture.

Stay posted! Right now I’m shooting for a March launch date.

The Evolution of Facebook to a TV-Show-Spoiling Brat

September 30th, 2011
  • It’s 2005 or 2006. You have a Facebook profile. The “favorite movies” and “favorite books” fields are open ended… simply a text box where you type in your entries and separate them with commas.
  • In 2006 (maybe 2007), Facebook adds a “Favorite TV shows” field.
  • In 2008 or 2009, They introduce “Fan pages”. You can “become a fan” of a show or movie or book that you like. But you still have your open-ended text boxes where you list your favorites.
  • Now, in 2010, they revamp the profile pages, and the “favorite TV shows” you listed before are automatically transformed into fan pages. Around this time, the Fan Pages you never volunteered to become a fan of start spitting out news feeds.
  • At this point in history, we all have DVRs and nobody actually watches a show on the night it’s on.
  • The result: Turn on Facebook on the morning after a new episode of your favorite show aired. You haven’t watched it, because you’ve DVR’d it and are saving it for the weekend. But right there at the top of your news feed, the show’s fan page has inundated you with spoilers.

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June 24th, 2011

Didn’t have the time to write a real post today, but this is something I came up with that I thought was cute. Ish. Also, check out Aine‘s new blog at http://revengerie.wordpress.com/.

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$y=date(“l”, strtotime(“-1day”));
$t = date(‘l’);
$tm = date(‘l’,strtotime(“+1day”));
$a = date(‘l’,strtotime(“+2day”));

echo “Yesterday was $y, $y
Today it is $t, $t
We, we we so excited
We so excited
Tomorrow is $tm
And $a comes afterward…”;
?>

Mathematical Reduction of “I Will Not Bow” by Breaking Benjamin

June 20th, 2011

I’ve been a fan of this Breaking Benjamin song since its release a couple of years ago. But listening to it, I thought… “There has to be a more efficient way to express the lyrics in the chorus.” After all, my background being in journalism, I find a need to trim fat and cut extraneous words. Look at how many are repeated:

I will not bow
I will not break
I will shut the world away
I will not fall
I will not fade
I will take your breath away
And I’ll survive
Paranoid
I have lost the will to change
And I am not proud
Cold blooded fake
I will shut the world away

So, how to reduce it? For this task, I have turned to my good friend MATH! Sure, I only took one math course in college, but in 7th and 8th grade, I was on the team. This prepares me for such conversions, which I will commence.

First we express the lyrics algebraically:

I will (not (bow)) +
I will (not (break)) +
I will ( shut the world (away) +
I will (not (fall)) +
I will (not (fade)) +
I will (take your breath (away) +
I will (survive) +
[I will be] (paranoid) +
I have (lost the will to change) +
I am (not (proud)) +
I will (shut the world (away) +
[you] cold blooded fake.

Naturally, the “and”s have been converted to plusses. For legibility, I’ve put implied lyrics in brackets and italicized them. The most glaring repetition is the phrase “I will”, so that’s the first phrase we will simplify.

I will (not (bow)) +
I will (not (break)) +
I will ( shut the world (away) +
I will (not (fall)) +
I will (not (fade)) +
I will (take your breath (away) +
I will (survive) +
[I will be] (paranoid) +
I have (lost the will to change) +
I am (not (proud)) +
I will (shut the world (away) +
[you] cold blooded fake.

Put these phrases together, and we get:

I will(not (bow) +
not (break) +
shut the world (away) +
not (fall) +
not (fade) +
take your breath (away) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
shut the world (away)) +
I have (lost the will to change) +
I am (not (proud)) +
[you] cold blooded fake.

At this point, we notice a lot of “not”s located INSIDE the “I will” statements. So these are the next things to go.

I will( not (bow) +
not (break) +
shut the world (away) +
not (fall) +
not (fade) +
take your breath (away) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
shut the world (away)) +
I have (lost the will to change) +
I am (not (proud)) +
[you] cold blooded fake.

Notice we left a “not” inside “I am (not(proud))”. We can’t really take that out, because it’s not inside a “will” it’s inside an “am”. Anyway, pulling the nots out, leaves us with:

I will
(not
(bow + break + fall + fade) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
(shut the world (away) +
take your breath (away) +
shut the world (away))
I have (lost the will to change) +
I am (not (proud)) +
[you] cold blooded fake.

Then we take the other I statements…

I
(will
(not
(bow + break + fall + fade) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
shut the world (away) +
take your breath (away) +
shut the world (away)) +
am (not (proud)) +
have (lost the will to change)) +
[you] cold-blooded fake.

Then cancel out the “away” statements, especially the repeated one.

I
(will
(not
(bow + break + fall + fade) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
shut the world (away) +
take your breath (away) +
shut the world (away)) +
am (not (proud)) +
have (lost the will to change)) +
[you] cold-blooded fake.

And the two “shut the worlds” of course. This gives us:

I
(will
(not
(bow + break + fall + fade) +
survive +
[be] paranoid +
away
(2(shut the world) +
take your breath)
am (not (proud)) +
have (lost the will to change)) +
[you] cold-blooded fake.

We’ve added the “be” and “you” because they’re understood, but they add unnecessary words to our equation. The “you” can just be removed since its statement is only a noun of address anyway. But what about the “be” paranoid? We can get rid of this one by adding it to the beginning, before the initial “I”. As in “paranoid, I will”. So make that change, and convert the equation back to lyrics, minimizing conjunctions… we end up with:

Paranoid, I will not bow, break, fall or fade
But will survive and
Away will take your breath
And twice shut the world,
have lost the will to change,
and am not proud,
cold-blooded fake

Spaces included, that’s 179 characters, as opposed to the original 240 characters. That comes out to 74.583% of the original lyrics, but the meaning is the same!

See how efficient that was? In this economy, we should work on fixing our songs to take less energy, for a greener world.